4. dance it out

Choosing the music at your wedding is a very important, but I must admit, it's a time consuming project.

You have a lot to factor in - and a lot of specific dances to decide on...


- Husband and Wife first dance

This was part of our entrance!

Photos by: Lewis Rinaman Photography

Our first dance: You & Me by Lifehouse

Photos by: Lewis Rinaman Photography 

- Mother and Son

Forever Young by Rod Stewart

 Photos by: Lewis Rinaman Photography 

- Father and Daughter

Sara's Smile by Hall & Oats

 Photos by: Lewis Rinaman Photography

We are lucky in this day and age of Internet, finding all the right music is right at our fingertips. I can understand how a couple would want to find that special song for their first dance, but the truth is - they can find that in their history together as a couple.

At all the weddings I've been to, what I have personally taken away from it, is that I love when the first dance of husband and wife actually MEANS something to them and not just "I honestly love you" by Olivia Newton-John nothing personal against the song, but if you've seen the movie "The Wedding Planner" when Mary goes on a tangent “Are you aware that Fran has chosen teal for her bridesmaids? Teal, the color of gangrene. … Oh, oh, and I Honestly Love You as your wedding song? You might as well commit matrimonial suicide right now!” you know what I am talking about.

The first dance is the first official thing as husband and wife - it should be something to treasure with a song that has some meaning behind it. Even if you don't have a "song" for you as a couple, it helps to divulge back into your history as a couple and figure it out.

I remember the first time I heard "You & Me" by Lifehouse - I was working at a bar in South Philly and the bartender grabbed me and was like "Listen to this song!" And I've never forgotten it - to do this day, I get goosebumps when I hear it. It was a no-brainer for us.

But if you are having issues I can offer you this - take a couple days, go through old songs, photos and concert tickets for as long as you have been together. Hopefully you will find some inspiration and will able to find a song that does have some meaning to it.

If not, the DJ we used at our wedding (see my Vendor Love) has some great links on their web site. Feel free to check it out, they have a massive list of wedding songs. 

PS - if you are looking an amazing new song look no further than the new Michael Jackson & Akon song.
  Here are a few lines...
So if you just hold my hand
Baby I promise that I’ll do all I can
Things will get better if you just hold my hand
Nothing can come in between us if you just hold my hand